This entry is not made to cause guilt, hurt, shame. Some will likely
feel it is controversial, others will dismiss it as myth entirely.
That's fine, but for those who want to understand the link, the
evidence, and how this ties in with my son , please keep reading
The Hospital Days
During the very first hours and days of my son's life, he could not be
with me due to his fragile condition. I could not pump milk due to the
medication they had shot into my system to keep my pre-eclampsia from
causing seizures. I could not even sit up for the first 24 hours
following my c-section. I had to wear compression stockings because I
was unable to move. I had a catheter. It was impossible to even go to
the nursery to see my son. So, instead of being latched at breast
following his birth, he was whisked off in one direction and I in
another. Like two ships passing in the night, only a brief moment of
recognition. His first 24 hours he was given formula in a feeding tube.
They had already determined he could not take a bottle and was
exhausting himself trying. On August 1st they brought in a breastpump
and lactation consultant. I began pumping little bits of colostrum for
him. They would give this first before following it with formula. In
addition to the feeding tube he was on an IV drip with glucose and a
broad spectrum antibiotic. They thought perhaps he had an infection,
when the magnesium should have been out of his system and he still
wasn't *sprucing up*..
On August 1st I took my first steps, was able to have my catheter
removed, and be wheeled to his nursery window. I was not allowed in yet
to hold him, I was still weak and wobbly. I continued to pump every 2
hours and pass his milk to the staff. By that evening I was pumping
30ccs some of the time. I was making enough that he could not have the
formula every time.
On August 2nd I walked to the nursery on my own and was able to go in
with my husband and we held his fingers and touched his feet for the
first time. Up to that point, all the touch he received was by hospital
staff. That evening he was stable enough to come out of the warmer and I
got to actually hold him for a brief few minutes.
On August 3rd they allowed us to try giving him bottles of my pumped
milk. He had a minimum required feed amount, and whatever he did not
take in the bottle was fed through the feeding tube. We continued on
like this 2 more days.
On August 4th they removed his feeding tube. He was warm enough to not
need the warming bed as long as he was bundled, and his sugar and
breathing had normalized. They brought him into my room. I admit it,
after enduring all this I was terrified. I tried to latch him that
afternoon with the help of lactation. They told me his mouth was just
too small and he was just too little yet. I cried, but later that night
by myself, I was able to latch him. He nursed for the very first time.
It lasted about 2 minutes before he fell asleep. But those two minutes
were enough to give me hope. I continued to offer the breast, but he was
just tiring out too fast. I stopped trying and resigned myself to pump
for him until he could latch.
At midnight on August 5th they circumcised him in preparation for going
home soon. He began having cold spells and oxygen issues again. He had
only been in our room for about 12 hours. He didn't come back after the
procedure. At noon that day, the NICU staff had a consult about my son.
Not long after, on the day we were supposed to be going home, we were
moved to the NICU. I cried. I was terrified.
The monitors went back on. The feeding tube went back in. The bed was
now an isolette with windows where we could slip our hands in to take
his temperature, touch him, and change him. I went home and tried to
sleep. Leaving him there alone was the most difficult thing I ever did. I
cried and cried until I finally fell asleep. But I had 2 other kids and
I had already been in the hospital 3 weeks counting the time before the
emergency c-section was performed. They needed me too, and Silas needed
me to be rested.
Silas was two weeks old when he came home. We were finally bottle
feeding tolerably and gaining weight slowly. I saw a lactation
consultant for the second time before we came home and was told the same
thing: he was too small and too weak still.
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